A New Approach to Valentine’s Day

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For many people, Valentine’s Day comes with a lot of expectations and pressure. For others, it’s a dreaded day where we try to distract ourselves from the pervading sense of loneliness.

All in all, Valentine’s Day doesn’t seem to be working well. So why don’t we try a new approach to this national holiday?

Instead of worrying about who will shower us with love, what gifts we’ll give, and what we’ll receive, let’s love people where they are. Let’s love the people who are around us, whoever they may be and no matter our relationship to them. Even if the only person we see all day is a gas station attendant, let’s love that person.

One of my favorite passages from Donald Miller’s book, Blue Like Jazz explains why loving people where they are is so crucial.

“…to be in a relationship with God is to be loved purely and furiously. So a person who thinks himself unlovable cannot be in a relationship with God because he can’t accept who God is- a Being that is Love. We learn that we are lovable or unlovable from other people…that is why God tells us so many times to love each other.” – Donald Miller

Spread love.

Relationship Deal Breakers

The Ultimate Guide to Relationship Deal Breakers (from my friends’ and I’s POV)

1. He lives at home. With his parents. Enough said.

2. The only artwork that hangs on his walls are posters. Specifically we’re talking about the cliché scar face posters or the bikini clad bombshell above his bed. What is he? Stuck in college?

3. He hides things from you. This should be obvious but seeing as trust is the foundation of any relationship, you don’t want to be stuck with a guy who hides things from you! For example, if he has a password code on his phone and refuses to give it to you, this might be a red flag.

4. He posts shirtless selfies on Instagram. This guy either has low self-esteem and desperately needs approval. In which case, no matter how much attention you give him, it will never be enough. Or he’s way too into himself. Probably more into himself than he is into you.

5. His kitchen staples are frozen dinners, canned food, and ramon noodles. This guy has some growing up to do. Or he’s just flat out broke.

6. He talks to his mom everyday. We love a guy who is close to his mom. This means he likely respects women and knows how to treat a lady. But if his mom knows more about your relationship with him than his own friends? He might have a mama complex…In other words, it’s fine when he’s a boy but when that boy becomes a man and his mother still rules his life, it’s a problem.

7. He has an ex girlfriend’s name tattoed on him. Come on, people! Tattoos are for life! Unless his ex girlfriend’s name is Mary and he plans on inking Virgin Mother in front of it, you don’t want to have to see her name every day on your man’s chest.

8. He expects you to cook and clean for him. This is 2014 people, it’s not 1956! You are not his maid.

9. He doesn’t have friends of his own. This is a huge deal breaker! If you and your friends are his only social outlet- run. It’s going to become a codependent relationship fast. Besides, what’s wrong with him that he can’t sustain any friendships? Don’t wait around to find out the answer.

10. He can’t fend for himself in social situations. This is related to number 9 in that this guy is likely a codependent. When you take him out to parties, you don’t want to have to baby sit him! He shouldn’t be clinging to your side the entire time.

Jesus Chose You First

It’s amazing to think about it. Jesus chose you first. He chooses you and then, you choose Him. God puts the Holy Spirit inside of you and then, in a moment of miraculous grace, He gives you the faith to call out to Him. And thus, begins your life long (and life altering) relationship with God.

Let’s not forget how it is in this way that we came to be in relationship with God. When you acknowledge this, you begin to grasp the depth of His love for you. You are chosen by God! Unconditionally loved by Him. You are special. Dwell in that. Let God be your valentine.

How To Say I Love You in Different Languages

You can’t say “I love you” enough to someone whom you truly love. Try changing it up a bit by saying, “I love you” in different languages. This video will teach you how to say “I Love You” in 10 different languages. Surprise and impress your loved one on Valentine’s Day! See below for the full list.

1. Spanish: Te quiero.
2. French: Je t’aime.
3. Russian: Ya tebya lyublyu
4. German: Ich liebe dich.
5. Japanese: Ai shiteru.
6. Chinese: wǒ ài nǐ
7. Icelandic: Ég elska þig.
8. Arabic: ana ah-hib ich (to a female)
ana ah-hib ek (to a male)
9. Hawaiian: Aloha Au Ia ‘Oe
10. Swahili: Nina kupenda

How to Say “I Love You” in 10 different languages

I Love You in Ten Different Languages. Because Valentine’s day is right around the corner and well…saying “I love you” to someone you truly love never gets old… Enjoy 🙂

1. Spanish: Te quiero.

2. French: Je t’aime.

3. Russian: Ya tebya lyublyu

4. German: Ich liebe dich.

5. Japanese: Ai shiteru.

6. Chinese: wǒ ài nǐ

7. Icelandic: Ég elska þig.

8. Arabic: ana ah-hib ich (to a female)

ana ah-hib ek (to a male)

9. Hawaiian: Aloha Au Ia ‘Oe

10. Swahili: Nina kupenda