Did I marry the wrong person? This is a common question in today’s world. Or often, people will believe that they married the right person back then, but justify their marriage breakdown with, “He/she is just not the same person that I married…”
But did you know that the human body essentially recreates itself every 6 months? In that time frame, nearly every cell of skin, hair, and bone dies and another is directed to its former place. So, guess what?! You are physically not the same person that you were last August!
Should we be surprised then that our partner of choice changes too? Of course not.
The unity of marriage is not designed for you to have the perfect roommate. And you will always marry the wrong person, because the one you marry will always be a sinner. But alas, marriage is designed to teach you how to wash another sinner’s feet. If only you will stick around long enough to properly learn.
When you say “I do,” you are essentially committing to make the choice to love that person, today, and every 6 months for the rest of your life, even as he/she inevitably changes. In other words, “This isn’t the same person I married” is not a justifiable reason to leave. In fact, it is no reason at all.
If you have the opportunity to love someone and it lifts you up, as opposed to bringing you down, take it.
Ah, yes. Youth.
People fight for it, live for it, die for it. What is our obsession with youth?
I would argue the value of youth is something we know instinctively.
For where there is youth, there is hope…
Where there is hope, there is wonder…
Where there is wonder, there is faith…
Where there is faith, there is chance…
Where there is chance, there is love…
Ah, yes. Alas, love.
We fight for it, live for it, die for it. And rightfully so.
If you look at the millions of stars stretched out above you, you realize how small you are.
It’s a good thing to be reminded of. In the grand scheme of things, you’re tiny. A mere blip.
But you’re also irreplaceable, invaluable, and miraculous. Truth is, those stars ain’t got nothing on you! 😉
If you’re going to convince me that a printing press explodes and creates Shakespeare…
You need to at least be able to tell me how it exploded.
How you see yourself, determines how you live.
The only time we should look down on another person is when we are reaching out our hand to lift them up.
As opposed to the Ego which can be called our False Self. Our True Self is our soul. Once discovered, our True Self can serve as an incredible reference point that is both within us and beyond us.
Our True Self knows that there is nowhere to go or get to, we are already at home. It doesn’t strive or reach, cling or grasp, it simply is.
If only we can find and embrace our soul, our True Self, we will stumble upon the utter freedom that has been around us and within us all along.
It’s hard to see someone you love in pain. It’s an instinct of love, I think, to want to help the other. But who are we to say pain is a bad thing?
You can spend hours, days, weeks, or even years trying to help your loved one heal. But you have to protect yourself in the process because you alone, of course, cannot heal them. You can’t take someone down from their own cross.