Why You Shouldn’t Lose Yourself in a Relationship

losing Yourself
What’s up with this idea of losing yourself in a relationship somehow being romantic?

We hear it in song lyrics, see it on television shows, and even read about it in magazines and on dating websites. For some reason, the idea is romanticized, but this really bothers me.

I mean, I understand how it happens… You get so comfortable with another person, feel so safe with them, it can be consuming. I get it.

Sometimes, even, we can become so concerned with the other person that we forget about ourselves. And as a result, we stop voicing our opinions, become excessively agreeable, and ultimately, as a person, we disappear.

But that’s not romantic. That’s lazy.

We have to keep in mind that our partner initially chose us because of who we are, what we bring to the table, and how we add to the relationship/his or her life.

The bottom line is that a relationship takes two people and if we don’t show up, we’re undermining the very purpose of it.

Working Through Relationship Issues Increases Your Inner Strength

It’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong. This isn’t judge Judy. Climb over whatever you have to climb to get each other back. He is worth every ounce of fight you have. Fight for this relationship. Sure, what happened wasn’t an accident but it’s not leukemia either.

But one day it might be. And you’ll need each other then. Don’t make a mountain of a little situation because one day, when the mountain comes, you won’t be able to climb it… you won’t have the strength.

The Tough Stuff

I’m grateful for the tough stuff in relationships, as it is often these very relationships that are helping us to grow into the person God designed us to be, and ultimately preparing us for a life in heaven.