Jesus guides me. He is the way, the truth, and the life. I am convinced that if left unguided, my thought process would no doubt drive me right into the ground. Or crash me into concrete. Surrendering to God, allowing Jesus to take the wheel, doesn’t diminish me to nothing, as one might suspect. No, in fact, I’ve noticed the more I surrender to God, the more He blooms me more solidly into myself.
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O Divine Master
O Divine Master, ask that I not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying to self that we are reborn
to eternal life.
-St. Francis
Being Who You Are Is Not a Disorder
Being who you are is not a disorder.
Being unloved is not a psychiatric disorder.
I can’t find being born in the diagnostic manual.
I can’t find being born to a mother incapable of touching you.
I can’t find being born on the shock treatment table.
Being offered affection unqualified safety and respect when and only when you score pot for your father is not a diagnosis.
Putting your head down and crying your way through elementary school is not a mental illness…
– Franz Wright
10 Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner
10 Truths I Wish I Knew Sooner
- Life is not about you. This is the greatest lie that people contend with today. Most of us are egotistical and self-absorbed, but it’s nonetheless true that life comes to a point when you realize (hopefully) that life isn’t about you. It’s about your relationships and the people with whom you share them. The purpose in life is not to find yourself. It’s to lose yourself.
- Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle.
- It’s okay not to be okay. You don’t have to be happy all the time. Let your story unfold as it should; disappointment, grief, anxiety and all… in this beautiful, tragic, awful, and adventurous life.
- Most of life is out of your control. So stop trying to control everything. Your power lies in your choices but you need to work on having faith in the little things. There is a difference in taking control of your life by pursuing things that interest you and learning when to let go and allow life to unfold for you as it should. Let things be. Let yourself be. Except everything as it is. Nothing more and nothing less.
- Hard work beats talent any day, when talent refuses to work hard. Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift to God. Don’t let your gift go to waste or keep it all safe and wrapped up for yourself. That’s not only an injustice to yourself but also to the rest of the world and even to God! Talents and gifts are meant to be shared.
- Ask for what you want. Didn’t your mother ever tell you if you don’t ask for what you want, you won’t get it? When you step out and speak about what you want, the world hears you, and the universe responds.
- A good laugh and a long nap are the two best cures for any problem. Or as a kid once told me, “Sometimes you just gotta take a nap and get over it.”
- Life becomes a lot easier when you learn to accept apologies you haven’t gotten. Folks, people are going to disappoint you and hurt your feelings. And some of these people will never feel bad about it. They might never even acknowledge it. You have to learn to forgive people even if you think they don’t deserve it. Forgiving someone does not say that what that person did was OK. It simply means you are no longer going to allow it to hold you hostage. Forgiveness heals you.
- Care about what people think and you will always be their prisoner. The opinions of other people won’t define you unless you let them. There is nothing that anyone can say that will change who you are, unless you take it to heart and let it. So take people’s opinions for what they are- opinions. And don’t waste your time dwelling on them.
- It’s a poor idea to lie to oneself. To lie to ourselves in the name of comfort is the ultimate mistake. Life decisions not based on reality are bound to be faulty. Be honest with yourself.
How To Do A Sock Bun Without A Sock
Quick, easy to follow, step by step tutorial on how to do a sock bun without a sock. Easy updo for all hair types! Look glamorous in no time with The Sock Bun ( without a sock )!
A Poem on Loss
A poem on loss. For all those who have lost someone you love and wondered if you will ever get to see them again.
“I Simply Can’t Be Convinced”
I can’t be convinced I won’t see him again.
I simply can’t be convinced.
I feel him all around me
His very breath awakens my sixth sense.
I wonder when you’re so entwined
And someone you love passes through
If a part of them stays left behind
Running like veins inside of you
Not only is he all around me,
Stitching my wounds with his personal thread
He’s watching me as I sleep soundly,
Filling my dreams and emptying my head.
I know that I can’t see him
I understand that he’s no longer here
But by God did I believe him
When he said, “I’ll see you soon, my dear.”
The last words that we spoke in person
But our souls whisper every day
I just close my eyes
See his face
Hear his voice
And
Pray.
There’s an App For That!
A parody song I wrote entitled, “There’s an App for That!”. Parody of Digital Planets’ song, “Rebirth of Slick (I’m Cool Like Dat)”. In today’s world, it seems just about anything you can think up, you can find an app for it! A musical commentary on the App World of today.
Lyrics:
Blink blink blink blink
Think think think think
You start your day in a bit of a haze
It’s 7am wondering, “Why am I awake?”
You lost your wallet, cant seem to find your dog
Last night was mad real but today’s a fog
What to eat for breakfast? Oh now you’re out of eggs
Gotta write a grocery list, cant keep it in your head
Boss emails “you’re fired” while ya headed to the store
Mental note: I aint going out on drinkin’ anymore
Now you’re looking for a job, ya life is a wreck
Trying find a man but aint nobody got time for dat!
Nodding at the wheel cause you’re falling asleep
Well guess what peeps?! It came out last week!
Yep
There’s an app for dat! (x7)
There is…
Check it out man you want a new nose?
Need some new clothes?
You can lock your home
While you’re on the road
Wanna get a date?
Tryna lose some weight?
Find the cheapest gas?
Grow your own mustache?
Do an ultrasound?
Check out the local pound?
Drink a little beer?
Spread a little cheer?
Go and call ya ma back
Then make a song like dat
Bet there’s an app for dat
We out…we out…
Love, Commitment, and Other Relationship Issues
It’s well known that love finds you when you’re not looking for it. But did you know that if you go looking for love, more than likely, you’re not ready for it? Love finds you, not the other way around.
Similarly, commitment finds you when you’re not ready for it. Truth is, you’re not ready for commitment now nor will you ever be. Do you really think that our independent, self-absorbed, 21rst century selves are ever ready to commit selflessly to another?! Of course not!
But that’s why love finds you first. And suddenly, it doesn’t matter whether or not you’re ready for commitment because commitment is no longer about you. It’s about the other. You commit not for yourself, but for the one you love.
Conversations with God – I Miss You
September 24, 2013
My child. I see you. I am with you. I hear you. I am close to you. My holy spirit resides inside of you. And now I smile, just as you do. Because I’m glad you’ve made time for me today. What have you been so busy doing? What happened to spending every morning together? I have been waiting. You know my joy comes in the morning. I wish you wouldn’t deprive yourself of it. And stop being nervous about whether you’ll hear from me. I long to talk to you. You talk to me often. But I wish more often you would let me talk back. Thank you for meeting me here right now. This is where I exist, you know. Right here and right now. It is the sure fire way to find me and to commune with me. You don’t even have to do it consciously, while journaling, for example. In fact, any and every time that you find presence, you will find me. I exist in the present. Through me, in your presence, you will receive presents: peace, rest, and joy. You are tired, thirsty and hungry. You spend your days like this. Though you drink and eat, your thirst remains. Only in the present, still before me, resting in my presence, will your hunger be gone and your thirst quenched. I offer this to you! I do not know why you refuse my presents, choosing instead to remain tired, thirsty and filled with hunger. Let me fill you up. The way I designed you to be full. Make my filling a regular part of your routine and watch as you life begins to gain fullness, too. You know this first hand. You’ve experienced it. So why settle for anything less? Oh how easily you forget! You deserve more, my child. So so so much more. And I am offering it to you daily, but it’s up to you to receive it. Always with you and always yearning for you, Jesus Christ in God the Father.
How To Love – Why Men Love Bitches and Beyond
Ever wonder why we care most about the people who care least about us? Or why do we do wrong to those who love us, while trying to get love from those who do us wrong? I explore these observations and more by referencing Sherry Argov’s book “Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship”.