It’s a strange thing when you start to feel better after thinking that you never would.
It’s even stranger when you want to love again after losing the love of your life.
A part of you screams, “No, you can’t! It’d be a betrayal.”
But another part of you, the better part of you, whispers, “Yes. Live again. Love again.”
There is no better way to honor yourself than trusting your intuition when it whispers.
“If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her.
Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want.
You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.”
-Don Miguel Ruiz
I trust you.
I know you know how to get things done. How to engage yourself with the world and then retreat.
You can eat when you’re hungry and sleep when you’re tired. You know how to shower, clean up, and pay your bills on time.
You know how to say “no” and how to say “yes” and when to do both.
You can let the right people in and show the wrong people out.
You know how to ask for help. And company when you need it.
You know how to forgive yourself. Stand by yourself. Be close to the people you choose.
This is your adventure. Your life. You got this.
You’re in charge and I trust you.
We all have days (often weeks, months, or years) where our confidence falters. I recently received an email with a link to a Huffington Post article entitled, “4 Habits of Superbly Confident People” by Agapi Stassinopoulos. I have included an excerpt from this article below. I hope you find it as helpful as I do!
1. Affirm that you are not alone. What that means, is that we often abandon ourselves, and that creates a feeling of tremendous insecurity. You are the one who has got to have your back and heart. There are three factors to knowing you are not alone: you reach within and you grab hold of your core self; you reach outward and you ask for help; and you reach to others and offer help.
2. Move into radical self-acceptance. Start appreciating every little thing about you, reinforce the positive, and refrain from focusing on lack. When you are feeling insecure, tell yourself, “I can’t afford the luxury of indulging in my own insecurities.” I often play the Bruno Mars song “Just the Way You Are,” which energizes me (and I wonder if Bruno wrote it for me).
3. Don’t wait to be perfect before you take action. You are always going to be a work in progress. Don’t wait for perfect circumstances. We put conditions on our happiness and well-being that distract us from being open to the opportunities that are in front of us.
4. Your presence is required. Call your heart energy present as you are living your daily life. Bring it present in your conversations and all your interactions. Do not disconnect from your heart. It is what brings fulfillment in your day.
Let’s get into that sweet spot of really accepting and cherishing our vulnerabilities, our humanness and ourselves! Let’s embrace the whole package, the things we are good at and the things we are not so good at, because that is how we find our confidence and how we make the ground we walk on not only steady, but sacred.