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Love, Commitment, and Other Relationship Issues

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It’s well known that love finds you when you’re not looking for it. But did you know that if you go looking for love, more than likely, you’re not ready for it? Love finds you, not the other way around.

Similarly, commitment finds you when you’re not ready for it. Truth is, you’re not ready for commitment now nor will you ever be. Do you really think that our independent, self-absorbed, 21rst century selves are ever ready to commit selflessly to another?! Of course not!

But that’s why love finds you first. And suddenly, it doesn’t matter whether or not you’re ready for commitment because  commitment is no longer about you. It’s about the other. You commit not for yourself, but for the one you love.

How To Love – Why Men Love Bitches and Beyond

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Ever wonder why we care most about the people who care least about us? Or why do we do wrong to those who love us, while trying to get love from those who do us wrong? I explore these observations and more by referencing Sherry Argov’s book “Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship”.

Beware of Shaming Others

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Beware of shaming others. For both kids and adults alike, the difference between telling someone, “You did something bad” and “You are bad” is an entire world.

Assignment for Today: Allow Yourself to be Startled by Life

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Control, which is only an illusion, is over rated. Life has much better ideas for us than we could ever imagine for ourselves.

Trust Your Struggle.

Trust Your Journey.

Assignment for today: Allow yourself to be startled by life.

Why Lying Hurts the Liar

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When you lie to someone you love, even about something seemingly insignificant, each lie is like a brick in a wall going up between the two of you. And when he tells you he loves you, the wall deflects it away…

A Personal Bad Habit in Relationships:

Posted on by under Personal Life Reflections

Believing every man is capable of fulfilling his highest potential while ignoring the reality that his behavior says the exact opposite. It’s like Maya Angelou said, “When people show you who they are, believe them. The first time.” Not everyone is emotionally capable of achieving their highest potential. Furthermore, not everyone wants to achieve their highest potential. Some people are perfectly content with where they are. I’m learning this.

A Victim of My Own Optimism in Romance

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She hits the nail on the head!!

“I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

Working Through Relationship Issues Increases Your Inner Strength

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It’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong. This isn’t judge Judy. Climb over whatever you have to climb to get each other back. He is worth every ounce of fight you have. Fight for this relationship. Sure, what happened wasn’t an accident but it’s not leukemia either.

But one day it might be. And you’ll need each other then. Don’t make a mountain of a little situation because one day, when the mountain comes, you won’t be able to climb it… you won’t have the strength.

A Rule for Making Music and Love:

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If it takes too long, you’re doing it wrong.

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At The End of the Day

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I’ve found that at the end of the day, people just want to be acknowledged and appreciated, whether it’s on the job or in a relationship.