Some People Say They Lose Themselves…

Some people say they lose themselves in new motherhood. But I think I’ve found myself.

The slowed down pace of life, the presence, the simplicity, all things I’ve longed for and couldn’t obtain.

The wonder, the curiosity, the delight, all qualities that I’ve struggled to hold onto through the years.

The adventure, the joy, the humility, she brought it all back to me and some.

Profound purpose, deep meaning, intense connection…all ingredients of a life well lived.

Some people say they lose themselves in new motherhood. But I think I’ve found myself again.

Dating After Divorce – A Poem (From the Child’s Perspective)

Posted on December 12, 2014 by VoW under Poetry

My dad is dating again
She’s more than a friend
I know it by the light in his eyes

He asked if I’d meet her
But I don’t want to see her
She’s not my mother, surprise

He says he’s lonely
And rightfully so,
Nothing is lonelier
Than 30 years without hope

The worst kind of loneliness
while you’re not alone
But with the one you love most
And still nobody’s home.

I do want him happy
But who could possibly deserve him?
I feel protective
I mean, what if she hurts him?

I feel jealous
I want his love for me only
But then I feel sad
Because I don’t want him lonely

Too soon to meet her
Too soon, I say
But when does too soon
become a little too late?

“Whenever you’re ready.”
The questions I face
When is the time ever right
To meet your dad’s date?

The relationship between parent and child exists for the primary purpose of the parent’s transformation.

It’s possible to hold on to your kids so tightly that you forget the very purpose of parenting is to let them go.