“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.
So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself.
Make new mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life. Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, do it. Make your mistakes, next year and forever.”
“Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.” – Scott Adams
The key to success in many areas of life, be it entrepreneurship, innovation, relationships, business, personal… is asking the right question.
Egyptian novelist and 1988 Nobel Prize Winner, Mahfouz Naguib, put it this way, “You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.”
In order to arrive at the right question, we have to remain open, curious, and receptive. Asking the right question helps us to focus on the right problem. If we’re feeling stuck for too long in a particularly unsatisfying situation, chances are we’re focusing on the wrong problem and asking the wrong questions.
As management guru Peter Drucker says, “The most serious mistakes are not being made as a result of wrong answers. The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong question.”
Remain open and curious, folks.
It’s easy when we’re having interpersonal problems (and how often are our problems not interpersonal?!) to look for someone to blame.
Sometimes we blame ourselves and nearly drown in guilt that may or may not be warranted. Sometimes we blame the other person, searching for flaws, being quick to point out what we find, and often creating an even bigger issue than the original one.
But what if we took a new approach to our many interpersonal issues? What if we stopped brooding over them and instead began to praise God for them?
Interpersonal issues reveal our weak spots, as well as our strengths. They present an opportunity to pause in awe of the delicate patterns which God has woven into our very existence. They ask us to look with wonder at the detail with which each person is carefully crafted; differences, imperfections, all of it.
Rather than trying to “fix” each other, we can instead marvel at just how complicated a species we are, and praise God because He is good and gives us grace.
There is no way of knowing which of our actions will forever have things hanging on them. And so, we tread carefully.
Alas, how innocent we are of our own mistakes and how responsible we are for them, also.