Walnuts and Rice

Here’s a fun exercise to try if you haven’t heard of it before:

walnuts-and-rice

Take a jar, a handful of rice (enough to fill the jar) and a handful of walnuts. If you put the rice in first and then the walnuts, you’ll find that there is not enough room in the jar for both. But if you put the walnuts in the jar first and then the rice, they both fit fine.

What’s the lesson?

The walnuts are our priorities. The things that matter most in life.

The rice is everything else. The small stuff. All of life’s little details.

walnuts-and-rice

When we do what matters most to us first, the rest of life kind of just falls into place. Life always works itself out when we have our priorities in line and we put our walnuts first.

Using Love as Money

Consider what metaphors we use to describe love and relationships.

We value people. We invest in relationships. People are priceless. A relationship can be bankrupt.

All economic metaphors.

I believe our problem is clear. We think of love as a commodity, using it for trade like money.

If someone is doing something for us, offering us time, gifts, social status, ect., we feel that they are valuable. With love, we withhold affirmation from those who don’t agree with us and lavishly finance those who do.

But love is not a commodity. And it doesn’t work like the economy. When you trade with love, everybody loses.

The Bible

The Bible is like a caged lion.

lion

If someone is attacking the lion, don’t try to defend it…

Just unlock the cage.

Life is like a Roller Coaster

roller coaster

Relationships are like Plants

Relationships are like plants. If you get a new one and water it too much, too soon… you kill it. Take it slow. 🙂

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The Benefits of Family

A family can be likened to a gymnasium. It is where we get most of our “love workouts”.

Gym Interior