“As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won’t need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices.
If you keep this agreement, you can travel around the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say, “I love you” without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask for what you need. You can say yes, or you can say no – whatever you choose – without guilt or self-judgment. You can choose to follow your heart always.”
-Don Miguel Ruiz
I don’t know why so many people say, “Do I have to grow up?”
Perhaps it was Peter Pan, inspiring us all to be children forever.
And I agree with Peter Pan that we should all strive to have the hearts of children, no matter how old we become. The child’s innocence, honesty, openness, curiosity, wonder…they’re all things we shouldn’t let the years steal from us.
But added years and increasing miles doesn’t result in decreased value.
We’re not like cars. We’re living beings!
For that which is alive, growth is a wonderful blessing.
Think about it. Each year things seem to clarify a bit more. Each year we grow stronger and stronger, more sure of ourselves and our Maker.
What’s not to love about growing up? About growing at all, in fact?
“Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see…”
“Twinkle lights are the perfect metaphor for joy. Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments- often ordinary moments. Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy because we’re too busy chasing down extraordinary moments. Other times we’re so afraid of the dark that we don’t dare let ourselves enjoy the light.
A joyful life is not a floodlight of joy. That would eventually become unbearable.
I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude, inspiration, and faith.”
“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, ‘Wow … what a ride.’ ”
If you knew that you were going to die tomorrow, who would you be with today and what would you do?
It’s an important question to ask every now and then to keep things in perspective. While most of us can’t control when or how we die, a lot of us can exercise some control over how we live.
And if we want to live a truly meaningful life while we have the chance, we ought to be thinking of death more often than we do.
“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he’s always doing both. ” – James Michener
I know that Joy is right around the corner from me
Peaking out with its familiar face
Trembling that we’ll miss eachother
With fear that she’ll not recognize me
Smiling, bright eyed
I wait for
There is no cure for hot and cold.
There is no cure for the facts of life.
If we can stop trying to escape the inevitable alternation of pleasure and pain, we can simply relax and be fully present for the wonder that is our lives.
“It is possible to move through the drama of our lives without believing so earnestly in the character that we play.” – Pema Chodron, The Places that Scare You