It’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong. This isn’t judge Judy. Climb over whatever you have to climb to get each other back. He is worth every ounce of fight you have. Fight for this relationship. Sure, what happened wasn’t an accident but it’s not leukemia either.
But one day it might be. And you’ll need each other then. Don’t make a mountain of a little situation because one day, when the mountain comes, you won’t be able to climb it… you won’t have the strength.
“You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp…” -Anne Lamott
This morning I went to a Starbucks drive thru. When I got to the window to pay, I recognized the woman by the register. Usually a cheerful lady, today she seemed down. I asked her how her day was going. “You don’t seem your usual chipper self,” I said. She went on to tell me how yesterday she was in the hospital for a sinus infection and she’s still feeling a bit in the dumps. I expressed empathy, “Sinus infections are the worst. I hope you feel better soon,” and handed her my money. She gave it back and replied with a smile, “Your drink’s on me today.”
The point is, kindness begets further kindness. And you never know how a simple expression of care might affect someone on any given day. My day was made too. An exchange of kindness between two people is priceless.