Tag Archives: change

My Hope For You This New Year (A Poem)

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My hope for you this New Year

is forgiveness of yourself and others,

revival of what matters most,

relationships with friends and lovers.

My hope for you is motivation,

bigger dreams, and inspiration.

Realistic goals and follow through,

these things are my hope for you.

My hope for you this New Year

is healing what you’ve broken;

repairing, mending, letting go

of all apologies left unspoken.

I hope when you look back to where

 you were this time last year,

you’re in an entirely different place.

Your truest self is ever near.

I hope that you have grown and changed.

With open arms embrace the pain,

search for joy, and new love, too.

These things are my hope for you.

When Life Lessons Come Full Circle: A Personal Story

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I’m an over achiever and a go getter. There’s a frantic, nitpicky air coursing through most of what I do. When I lived in Los Angeles, I shared an apartment with a wonderful free spirit. We contrasted well with her calming, almost floating presence.

I’ll never forget when she turned to me one day and asked, in her innocent, purely curiosity driven way, “What are you going to do when you’ve done it all?”

At the time, her question bounced right off me. Back then, fresh out of college, the only beatings I endured were from myself and generally, I saw no limits to what I could achieve.

Ironically (though probably not), she was the very person with me 2.5 years ago, when my world came crashing down around me. And although we no longer live together in Los Angeles, her question has haunted me throughout the years.

Today, 29 months and numerous universe inflicted battle wounds later, her words ring more powerful than ever.

While I’m still an over achiever and go getter, I now understand and appreciate the gifts of grace and presence, agents of change that my former LA roommate wisely knew all along.

God’s Not After Obedience

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God is not after obedience.

If He was, He would have created robots.

God doesn’t just want to change your behaviors. He wants to change your heart.

God is after desire.

Love and Approval

Posted on by under Relationships & Love

We seem to have formed this strategy of withholding love in order to change people. Giving it to them only when we approve. A sort of positive reinforcement.

But this is not how God loves. God never withholds love in order to teach us a lesson. And God’s love is the single most powerful change agent on the planet.

Despite what we may believe, it’s not our responsibility to change someone. It’s God’s. Our only job is to communicate love and approval. And if we really want someone to change, we ought to be showering them with both.

Did You Marry the Wrong Person?

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marriage

Did I marry the wrong person? This is a common question in today’s world. Or often, people will believe that they married the right person back then, but justify their marriage breakdown with, “He/she is just not the same person that I married…”

But did you know that the human body essentially recreates itself every 6 months? In that time frame, nearly every cell of skin, hair, and bone dies and another is directed to its former place. So, guess what?! You are physically not the same person that you were last August!

Should we be surprised then that our partner of choice changes too? Of course not.

The unity of marriage is not designed for you to have the perfect roommate. And you will always marry the wrong person, because the one you marry will always be a sinner. But alas, marriage is designed to teach you how to wash another sinner’s feet. If only you will stick around long enough to properly learn.

When you say “I do,” you are essentially committing to make the choice to love that person, today, and every 6 months for the rest of your life, even as he/she inevitably changes. In other words, “This isn’t the same person I married” is not a justifiable reason to leave. In fact, it is no reason at all.

Don’t Let Change Scare You

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It’s funny how most of us have seen how quickly life can change, yet few of us remember this the moment that it does.

Don’t let change scare you.

Whenever One Door Closes I Hope One More Opens

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Doors.

Holes in walls that offer us a way out. Or a way in.

So many questions come with doors.

What if it’s unlocked? What if it’s locked? What if no one answers? What if someone does? What if…

What if…

You never know with doors. They always come with that beautiful, humbling thing called chance.

The Amazing Capacity of Humans

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breakfast of champions

We, as humans, have this amazing capacity to be reborn every day. We can sit at breakfast each morning and declare, “Today is a new day! What am I going to do and who am I going to be?” Talk about a breakfast of champions…

A Personal Bad Habit in Relationships:

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Believing every man is capable of fulfilling his highest potential while ignoring the reality that his behavior says the exact opposite. It’s like Maya Angelou said, “When people show you who they are, believe them. The first time.” Not everyone is emotionally capable of achieving their highest potential. Furthermore, not everyone wants to achieve their highest potential. Some people are perfectly content with where they are. I’m learning this.

Working Through Relationship Issues Increases Your Inner Strength

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It’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong. This isn’t judge Judy. Climb over whatever you have to climb to get each other back. He is worth every ounce of fight you have. Fight for this relationship. Sure, what happened wasn’t an accident but it’s not leukemia either.

But one day it might be. And you’ll need each other then. Don’t make a mountain of a little situation because one day, when the mountain comes, you won’t be able to climb it… you won’t have the strength.